How to be Allies to the Feminist Movement (For Men by Women)

For too long, women have had to change their actions, attitudes and behaviours to protect themselves. Whether that be putting keys in between their knuckles, not walking alone late at night or always having to opt for extra security, women have always had to protect themselves. However, we are strong believers that the focus should instead be on educating men on how to stop perpetuating the problem and culture that leads to these preventative actions. When creating a more progressive world, it is very appreciative when men are allies to the feminist movement. With the feminist movement becoming more known, it is important to acknowledge that being a “feminist” means supporting women in their fight against inequality and discrimination. There are many ways a man can help as an ally to show their support. Help be a part of the solution to avoid being a part of the problem

Don’t be afraid to speak up

Many men shy away from speaking up for reasons such as they think there’s no point, that it won’t change anything, or they may think it can make them seem soft. By speaking up, you prove that you want to be a part of the solution. When seeing a woman being harassed, discredited, or when your peers may make prejudicial comments, speak up.

Listen

It’s the very least one can do to show that they care. By listening, you’re showing respect for reaching out to someone. Listen to women that want to tell you how you can help. Listen to women and learn of their struggles and stories - you may be surprised. Listen to bring awareness for them when they are unheard.

Put in an effort to learn

Learning about the roots of problems shows how well of an ally you can be. Acknowledge that the feminist movement is necessary and why. Don’t be an ally if you believe that being a feminist is being trendy. One needs to understand why women want change and why they want to feel safer around men.

Avoid microaggressions against women as a whole

Microaggressions are the complete opposite of trying to be progressive. They are demeaning and insulting in many ways. One example is victim blaming (eg: asking a woman what she was wearing when she was harassed). Another example is sexist “humour” (eg: women only belong in the kitchen). Microaggressions are disrespectful and degrading - they are specifically targeted to a group of people in order to undermine them.

Use your privilege

Some men don’t realise the privilege they have compared to women until they get to use it. Using your male privilege can be useful in certain situations. For example, if you see a woman being approached by someone in an uncomforting way, call them out. Use male privilege for good to make a change.